Recommended Reading from Integrity Counseling of Las Cruces, NM


EMDR, the breakthrough eye movement therapy for overcoming anxiety, stress, and trauma
by Francine Shapiro.
This book gives real life stories about people who have suffered from a variety of traumas and how they were healed of their trauma symptoms with EMDR. The opening story about a woman traumatized via the Oklahoma City Bombing and how she was healed via the free EMDR clinic that was available after that incident makes for very exciting reading. This book is for the lay person, not necessarily the clinician.

Mothers Who Can’t Love:  A Guide for Daughters
by Susan Forward
Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 bestseller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters—and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy.

In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love.

Getting the Love You Want: a Guide for Couples
by Harville Hendrix.
Want to understand why you pick the mates you do over and over? Or why you end up unhappy in relationship after relationship and what you can do about it? This is your book. Harville takes an indepth look at relationship dynamics, helps you identify your patterns and gives real answers to the problems we all face in relationships.

Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
by John Bradshaw.
Bradshaw helps the reader do inventories of present day indicators of neglect, shaming or abuse from different developmental stages in childhood. You will discover during which developmental stages you got your needs met and which stages you didn’t and how that plays out in your current life. He also provides guided meditations and other valuable ideas on how to re-parent your wounded inner child (infant, toddler, pre-schooler, grade-schooler, etc.), so that you are happier and more powerful as an adult.

Healing the Shame That Binds You
by John Bradshaw.
All Bradshaw’s books are great!! This one will help you see more clearly how you were shamed and wounded as a child, and more importantly, what you can do to heal this wound, so you can feel full of self love and free of toxic shame.

The Mood Cure: the 4-Step Program to Rebalance Your Emotional Chemistry and Rediscover Your Natural Sense of Well-Being
by Julia Ross.
An extensive look at how to balance brain chemistry the natural way–without prescription drugs. The author provides understandable and effective ideas that involves diet changes, adding supplements, amino acids, working with your doctor to test for thyroid, adrenal and hormonal imbalances, and healing these problems with natural remedies. If your tired of the negative side effects of anti-depressants and want other answers, read this book! It’s loaded with great information and a great index.

Parenting With Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility
by Foster Cline and Jim Fay.
Discover how to parent without getting mad or stressed out. Find out how to raise children who become responsible, happy adults, even in this crazy world. This should be every parent’s parenting bible. There are mini-chapters devoted to solutions to every problem you could ever face with your children. Hide this book. Don’t let your children in on your parenting secrets.

Parenting TEENS With Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood
by Foster Cline and Jim Fay.
Same philosophy as “Parenting with Love and Logic”, but has extensive mini-chapters devoted to teen problems. Another must read and own for parents.

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
by Susan Forward.
Whether you suffered mild abuse and neglect or severe, this book will help you to heal your inner child with indepth insights and writing assignments. It will also help you to unravel your current guilt with your parents and how to handle them in your present day life.